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ER Diaries: Finding a groom - The struggle is real


Why did you land up here? People are scared to take a step further!I want you to write the entrance one more time and get lost from this field ! I spoke to a lady for matrimony purpose and she cut me down saying Emergency Medicine ? This a demanding field!Just take a Paraclinical subject and SETTLE down. - My Mother said.


Some more Free Me Time . I laugh as I breathe heartily before my mom runs behind me with her belan! 
Dust settles down. I don’t ! Cutting down the cliche crap . Some serious fodder down here:

While common marriage advice holds that a person should place his or her marriage above all else, doctors often don't. Living with this reality often requires a lot of patience! Patience these days is like biryani takes a lot of efforts and wait ! 

The healthcare is a cross section of our society, and just as in any other community, there are always promiscuous men and women.

The type of work doctors deal with tend to attract partners that have similar attractions to duty, honor and commitment. Expecting that from non medicos is a bit too much.

'Don't involve your whole life around your career, do something for yourself.' My mom says! Budging me to get married.

But some serious bitter gourd facts: 
Life being married to a doctor -- and staying married -- requires that you're always flexible. Things change fast and often, and it's absolutely essential that you, are able to roll with the punches as those changes affect your life too!

As times get harder in the quest for marriage ironically expectations seem to rocket. We are all guilty of this at times. And why not, we all want the best for ourselves don’t we? We deserve the best right? Yes we do….but we need to realise we can’t have EVERYTHING we want.

My new motto is 'Just go with it,' or 'Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.' 

People assume that night duties, weird work schedules and frequent moves put too much stress on marriage.Those things do stress marriages, but couples seem to have coping mechanisms or realistic expectations or something that enable them to weather the separations and anxiety.

This hardiness might have something to do with the pride that spouses feel for their partners’ willingness to serve and the deep sense of respect this fosters.

Its uplifting to know your spouse is serving the humanity not just chasing the almighty Rupaiya!

It is a struggle, it is tough, it’s a hard game.






Everything does happen for a reason, and while we don't always know the reason right away, it will lead to the right path. Just basically, be patient ad things will work themselves out.


I want to look back and be able to say that yes, I gave my all to this season of my life to something with so MUCH adventure and adrenaline. At a stage of life where my own life has so much drama . The daily argument, errors , blame games! Some may diminish its importance, but they are amazing! 

The moments matter because, comprehensively, these are what we will look back and remember as “the residency years.” I hope I will remember them well!

So far so much!
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